I've been toying with making a simple series of videos for a while now. I have big dreams of creating all of the graphics myself and doing it from scratch in my Adobe Creative Suite like a real designer. (that's what my perfectionist self talk says)... but as I begin to identify more in my creator and less in my created self... I find perfectionism less necessary.

So here's the story leading up to the video at the bottom of this post:

A few months ago a mentor of mine encouraged me to do a few reflective assignments that would help me see my life experience through new glasses. She encouraged me to step away from 'taking care of' the other characters in the story (parents, siblings, friends, teachers)... and just go inside of the 'little Jenny', and with my current maturity, try to experience what she did.

Whoa, to say the least. Powerful exercise. I was also encouraged to just sit with with what I found for the rest of the day. As she said, "Give yourself as much space to be broken as you give your students". Again, powerful exercise. Difficult. But I tried.

Then this past week I was in class with my female students, and we were doing an exercise out of the textbook called "Where have I been". Interesting, and not at all choreographed by me, I realize I am now encouraging them to do the same thing I was asked to do. The difference, I note, is that I have a support system, a home, loving family and 15 years of sobriety within which I've been able to grow increasing emotional sobriety and conscious contact with my Higher Power. So that's no small thing. I decided I needed to simplify the assignment from what I did to a starter version, as they would have emotions awakened and have to return to a densely populated cell surrounded by negativity. They currently live in an a volatile situation. Hardly the refuge I had at my disposal.

What I wanted to bring to their attention were two different concepts both of which are critical to understanding where (many of my students) live now and have been during their childhood. Trauma. I showed them two videos, TED Talks, about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE)s, as well as some hope for overcoming them once we understand them.

So I stepped up and I facilitated a conversation. I took to the white board to illustrate, quite simply, what I needed them to begin to understand. As I did, the lights went on in their eyes. We cried, connected, and I watched them reach out and connect with each other in ways beyond the typical jailhouse joking, hair braiding and complaining. I saw the mothers and wives and women emerge and see themselves with identification and an unfamiliar hope.

I decided to take it to my blog. Below I share with you simple recreations of what I drew on the white board during our class session, along with 'the gist' of what we discussed per frame.

1) When we are little and dependent on parents and the world to show us what we need to know, we just believe them that what they do and say is true. Sometimes our parents aren't well when they raise us. This is not our fault. And to be fair, even in the most hostile of homes, they are doing the best they know how to do as well. But as children, our needs may not get met.